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Some thoughts from the parsha

“And Reuben went in the days of wheat harvest, and found mandrakes in the field.”
(Genesis 30:14)

One of the striking themes throughout Genesis is how often righteousness is expressed through honesty, restraint, and avoiding even the appearance of taking what is not yours. Again and again, the Torah shows us that moral clarity begins with integrity.

Before the Flood, the world collapsed under corruption. The Torah describes society as filled with chamas—a word Rashi explains to mean theft. Even though humanity had fallen into many serious moral failings, it was theft that finally sealed the decree.

Why theft?

The Siftei Chachamim explains that, although the earlier sins were severe, they still left room for repentance. But once people felt entitled to what belonged to others, the inner moral compass shattered. A society that cannot respect basic boundaries cannot repair itself.

This sets the stage for Reuben, the eldest son of Jacob. The Torah highlights his behavior to show a contrast—a model of careful integrity. It was wheat-harvest season, when leftover stalks, leaves, and fallen produce are considered ownerless. Precisely then, Reuben went searching for duda’im (mandrakes). He chose a time when no one would suspect him of taking something unfairly. Rashi emphasizes that Reuben did not “extend his hand toward theft.” Even the possibility of wrongdoing was avoided.

The sages teach (Bava Batra 165a) that most people stumble in some form of theft—not outright stealing, but the internal justifications we make when something benefits us:
– “Everyone does it.”
– “They won’t notice.”
– “It’s close enough to a business expense.”

The righteous, however, work hard not only to avoid wrongdoing, but also to avoid deceiving themselves. Reuben’s praise lies not only in what he did—but in how he thought.

What about the mandrakes?

The word duda’im appears elsewhere in Scripture, symbolizing two “baskets”—one of good, one of bad (see Jeremiah 24:1). The sages explain that even the “bad basket” will one day return to its proper place in creation.

This is an important balance: while theft damages a person’s internal compass, nothing ultimately prevents a human being from returning to G-d. There is always a path back—whether in this lifetime or the next.

A Noahide message

For Noahides, the Seven Laws begin with the most basic ethical pillars—among them, the prohibition against theft. But beyond the legal minimum lies the spirit of the Torah: a way of life built on honesty, transparency, humility, and the refusal to take shortcuts at the expense of others.

Reuben’s example invites all of humanity to live with:
– Clean hands — never taking what is not ours.
– Clear eyes — being aware of how easily the mind justifies what the heart desires.
– A straight heart — aligning our inner world with the righteousness that G-d asks of all humanity.

May we be blessed to live with integrity, protect the dignity of others, and help repair the world through honest dealing and upright judgment.

Now, reflect on the following questions:

  1. When have you been tempted to justify something questionable because it was convenient?
  2. What internal “warning signs” tell you that you might be blurring moral boundaries?
  3. Why do you think the Torah treats integrity—and especially protection of another’s property—as such a foundational value?
  4. How does honesty in small matters shape your spiritual growth in larger areas of life?
  5. What is one commitment you can make this week to keep your “hand” far from even the shadow of wrongdoing?

Shabbat Shalom!

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