{"id":21876,"date":"2025-07-04T07:33:09","date_gmt":"2025-07-04T06:33:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukkatshalom-bneinoach.com\/?p=21550"},"modified":"2025-08-17T17:17:34","modified_gmt":"2025-08-17T16:17:34","slug":"parshat-chukat-5785-dont-hit-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukkatshalom-bneinoach.com\/nl\/parshat-chukat-5785-dont-hit-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"PARSHAT CHUKAT 5785 - NIET SLAAN, MAAR PRATEN"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"has-text-align-right\"><strong>\u05d1\u05e1\"\u05d3<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"PARSHAT CHUKAT - DON&#039;T HIT, TALK\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/b8Ag1xzv4kM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><br>Parashat Chukat In this week&#8217;s Torah reading we find the story of Moshe hitting the stone to give water. A psychological approach to understand a fundamental lesson in leadership.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>This Week\u2019s Torah Portion: Chukat \u2013 Irrational Laws and Leadership Lessons<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This week&#8217;s Torah portion is called <em>Chukat<\/em>, which refers to &#8220;irrational laws&#8221;\u2014commandments that are difficult to fully understand. Many events take place in this portion, and interestingly, most of them occur toward the end of the Jewish people&#8217;s journey through the desert. In fact, nearly 38 years pass in just a few verses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the significant stories that happens after these 38 years\u2014almost 40 years of wandering\u2014is that the Jewish people suddenly have no water. Why? Because Miriam, the sister of Moshe Rabbeinu (Moses), passes away. The miraculous well that had accompanied the Jewish people throughout their journey in the desert was there in Miriam\u2019s merit. When she died, the well disappeared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, the people complained to Moshe Rabbeinu, saying they needed water. Moshe, in turn, turned to G-d. And G-d told him the following (paraphrased from the original Hebrew): <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><em>&#8220;You and your brother Aharon shall speak to the stone, and it will give forth water&#8230;&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>However, Moshe Rabbeinu was upset, and we see here one of the dangerous consequences of anger. In Judaism, anger is considered a very negative trait\u2014something lowly and destructive. In his frustration, Moshe gathered the people and, instead of speaking to the stone as instructed, he struck it\u2014not once, but twice. Water came out, the people drank, and everything seemed fine on the surface.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But G-d was not pleased with Moshe&#8217;s actions. He said to Moshe and Aharon: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><em>&#8220;Because you did not believe in Me, to sanctify Me before the eyes of the Children of Israel, you shall not bring this congregation into the Land that I have given them.&#8221;<\/em> <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>In other words, because Moshe hit the stone instead of speaking to it, he and Aharon were not allowed to lead the people into the Land of Israel. They would die outside the Land.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s try to analyze this deeper. Why did Moshe hit the stone when G-d clearly told him to speak to it? The simple answer is: he was angry. And when you are angry, you make mistakes. That in itself is already a powerful lesson\u2014beware of anger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But perhaps there\u2019s a deeper psychological explanation. Moshe knew his people. He had dealt with the generation that came out of Egypt 40 years earlier. They were a tough generation\u2014constantly complaining, rebelling, and challenging leadership. That generation needed strong, forceful leadership. In fact, 40 years earlier, when the people needed water, G-d told Moshe to hit the rock\u2014and he did, and it worked. No one complained then, and G-d didn\u2019t object.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, now 40 years have passed. That older generation\u2014the men between ages 20 and 60 who had left Egypt\u2014had all died. This new group of Israelites was different. But Moshe may have seen them as the same. He assumed they still needed to be led with toughness, &#8220;with a stick,&#8221; so to speak. That\u2019s why he reverted to the same method: he hit the rock again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But this time, G-d was saying something else: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><em>&#8220;No. These are not the same people. They need a different kind of leadership\u2014a leadership based on words, not force.&#8221;<\/em> <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Moshe failed to recognize this shift. He didn\u2019t update his leadership style for the new generation. That\u2019s why he was no longer the right person to lead the people into the Land of Israel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is a deep and timeless lesson here. Generations change. Education must adapt. People evolve, and leadership must evolve with them. What worked for one generation may not work for the next. In our times, too, we must learn to lead, teach, and inspire not by &#8220;hitting the rock,&#8221; but by speaking\u2014by understanding, listening, and connecting through words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:100px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Spreekbeurt van rabbijn Tuvia Serber<\/strong><br><br><br>Het bovenstaande is een weergave van de gesproken tekst die is omgezet naar geschreven tekst.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00a9 Copyright, alle rechten voorbehouden. 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